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  • Quitting the Bottle

    I quit drinking in 2021. I will have a drink here and there, but I used to be a binge drinker. I grew up with alcohol being the only coping skill taught. I took my first drink much later than most, already in college. I was turned off to alcohol since I had been raised

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  • Happiness

    Peace is priceless. Happiness is overrated. Control is internal. Chaos is addicting. Connection is delicate. Adventure is memorable. Growth is hindsight. Love is compassion. Loyalty is fleeting. Future is blind. Forgiveness is daily. Energy is vital. Peace is priceless.

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  • Like the First Time

    Machining, milling, measuring, making with a team, working together. It is interesting trying to dissociate while doing such hands-on work, or slightly avoiding doing hands-on work for fear of messing up. Always in my head, that old boss and parents, where I could never do anything right, left out and the scapegoat. Today I felt

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  • The Transformation of FIRE & IFS

    I stumbled into the family business of Chemistry and Engineering when I was running up against paying out-of-state tuition and had to pick a major after staying in undergraduate school a little too long. I did not fit the mold of an engineer, but it would work since I was good at math and knew

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  • Britney Spears & Narcissistic Abuse

    Britney Spears is a victim. Similar to previous historical time periods, when husbands would gaslight and abuse their wives until they were pliable enough to be put in a nunnery or psychiatric ward, then go marry their mistress. Her story is the new control narrative, one that was lucrative for her family. She was the

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  • Pills Make It Alright: But the Ending is Better Without Them

    They did not know any better. How do two high-functioning alcoholics decide to “help” their pre-teen going through pre-teen angst and mood swings? Pills. Lots of them. Let’s avoid all our feelings together because if someone is telling the truth here, or, gasp! showing some justified anger, then we will all have to accept that

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  • Desert Springs

    In the middle of Big Bend National Park, there are the Cattail Falls. A desert oasis that does not fit the rest of the scenery. I traveled with my ladies-only hiking/camping group and we camped at the Chisnos Basin Campground. The entire group is really amazing and there are some strong, wonderful women. We committed

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  • On the Market

    Over a decade of memories, the trees have grown. The taste of freedom across the nation for adventure. The home smells clean, even as others look at its bones. Ready for new people, sounds and memories. I will miss the children playing, growing, learning. I hope there is hide and seek amongst the trees. Touching

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  • Breakthrough

    Growth and vulnerability are what I need to work on, They say. While in a snake pit, always watching my back. Yelling, lying, gaslighting, manipulation and fear. Making me want to jump up and out, let them win. What if this goes wrong and what if that goes wrong, I say. I’m doing it anyway,

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